How to live for today one day at a time and live for tomorrow
How to Live for Today
Maybe you have a day coming up that will be your first free day in a long time, and you want to make the most of it. Maybe you're thinking about those days you wake up and feel weirdly present, happy about the sunshine, singing to yourself, and want to know how to have more of them. Let today be the day you let go of worries and embrace pleasure and contemplation. Let go of yourself, get lost, slow down, and enjoy the moment. Do as the Roman poet Horace said, and "pluck the day," carpe diem, it is ripe for the taking.
Getting Lost and Letting Go
Wander.Go out in the world on foot, weather permitting. Instead of making a plan, let your feet carry you around. Walk to a neighborhood you rarely visit, or a park. Take a bus and walk around somewhere you don't spend much time. Spend as much time on your feet and without a map or a phone as you comfortably can.
- If you find yourself automatically taking routes you always take, reprogram yourself. For example, take an ordinary route but take a crucial wrong turn.
- Take a map and draw a shape on it with your eyes closed. Now follow the "route" you drew through the city as closely as you safely can.
- Call a friend and ask them what their favorite point in your town is. Ask for very rough directions and see if you can find it before sunset.
- Feel free to change your mind at any point and walk in the directions that attract you. You're getting lost in order to live fully, not enact a strict plan.
Choose doors to enter.Take the opportunities given to you today, whether they be invitations from friends or samples at the grocery store. Don't do anything that makes you feel truly wrong, but do encourage yourself to try new things. Say "yes" to more than you usually do, and you might surprise yourself.
Enter your flow state.Do work that compels your attention completely. Do not time yourself, but let yourself focus for as long as you naturally can. Play music, read, write, dance, walk, or work on a project or hobby. Flow state means you are in the moment, creative, focused, and undistracted.
- If you have no work or hobby that can completely occupy your attention, work on developing one.
- Pick a project that involves your most developed skills and is meaningful to you.
- Eliminate distractions. Do not check your email, any websites, or your phone while you work.
- If you were productive, lost track of time, and felt good after working, you were in flow state.
Spend time alone.You can be alone in public or privately alone, but take some solitary time. If most of your solitary time is spent a certain way, find another way to spend it. For instance, if you work from home, go somewhere else to be alone. Visit a library, a museum, or take yourself out to lunch.
- Spend time away from your phone and your computer. Forgetting your ordinary obligations will help you live in the moment.
Practice forgiveness.Choose to move on from feelings of resentment. Nothing takes you away from the present like dwelling in the past. To clear your day of resentment, make a list of people who have hurt you, or, if there is one person strongly on your mind, write only that name. Spend some time thinking about how much they hurt you, and what effect that has had on you.
- Decide to attempt forgiveness. Say it aloud if that sometimes helps you.
- Ask yourself what you know about the person who hurt you. Try to reconstruct the stresses, pressures, traumas, and fears that this person has experienced.
- Let go of your anger. Allow yourself to feel compassion for the person who wronged you. You don't have to reconcile them, just let yourself feel some goodwill towards them.
- Forgiveness can have a positive effect on your health and wellbeing. Choosing to forgive a betrayal can lower your blood pressure, improve your heart health, and diminish anxiety and depression.
Deconstruct your ordinary procedures.Instead of buying lunch, buy groceries and cook a meal. To buy ingredients, walk somewhere you can buy them, such as a corner store, a farmer's market, or a grocery store. Buy as many parts of the meal from scratch as you can.
- For instance, if you would normally buy a chicken sandwich, consider baking bread, sautéing some chicken, and making fresh mayonnaise and quick pickles.
- Visit a pick-your-own orchard and pick fruit that is in season. Eat some, bake some, freeze some, and make sauce from the rest.
Do nothing.Living fully in the day means not filling in all the empty space. Do nothing, or do one thing at a time. When you eat, focus on your food. Let your mind wander. You are likely to remember things you need to do when your mind wanders: make a note of them, and continue doing nothing.
Practice mindfulness.So much of living in the day means allowing yourself to be open in the moment. Leave yourself vulnerable to any thoughts, senses, and feelings that come to you. Rather than interpreting or judging them, let lean into them.If you feel yourself getting worried, distracted, or unhappy, do exercises that help you regain the present.
- Name the emotions that come to you. Do not shut out unpleasant thoughts or feelings, but say what they are, and what you think brought them up.
- You don't need to go deep, in fact you want to avoid spiraling into negative thoughts. Negative thoughts don't usually lead anywhere but back to themselves, so it's important to recognize them and let them go.
- Turn your attention to your senses. Notice what you can see, smell, hear, and feel in the moment.
- Feel the breath coming in and out of you. Take deep breaths and let them out slowly. Focus only on your breath for a while.
- Relax your whole body by tensing and relaxing each muscle in turn.
Focus on your body.Wear clothing that feels good on your skin. Eat food that makes your body feel energized. Avoid overeating or undereating. Take a nap if you feel tired. Exercise. Take a dance class, ride your bike, or go on a long, brisk walk.
- If you can't tell what your body wants, do some mindfulness exercises. They will help put you back in your body.
- Get a full night's sleep. Sleep without an alarm, and make your room as dark as possible.
Commune with others.Spend time with friends or family doing relaxed, focused activites. Talk, eat, cook, or go on a walk with someone you love. Pay attention to the people you are with: ask questions, and listen to their answers. Hug, touch, and hold hands with your loved ones.
- Spend time face to face if you can, but also call a loved one on the phone if they are on your mind.
- Commune with a crowd. Go to a concert, a club, a church, a sporting event, a protest or a rally. Cheer, chant, move, and sing with others. Go to an event you feel welcome at, so you can enter into the group feeling.
Spend time enjoying art.Paying deep attention to art can induce a state of heightened mindfulness. By paying attention to images, sounds, patterns and textures, you can experience deep emotion without judgment. Visit a museum, listen to music, and read poetry.
- Don't force yourself to understand or analyze what you see, hear, and read. Don't force yourself to enjoy, either. Instead, let yourself relax and pay attention to the sensory information you receive.
- If you are having trouble being present with art, try noticing five things about what you are experiencing. If you are looking at a painting, try to distinguish the brush strokes. If you are reading a poem, notice the vowels and see if they repeat.
Be outside.Spend time in the sun to improve your mood and feel present in your body.Visit a park, the forest, the beach, or another natural setting to lower your stress.Spend time outside without doing anything else. Don't listen to music or talk on the phone.
- You can also spend time outside as part of your everyday activities. If you have something you need to do, ask yourself if you can do it outside.
Do something you haven't done before.If you are feeling relaxed, mindful, and pleased with your day, you might be ready for the thrill of doing something new. Make a list of five things you never have done: places you haven't gone, things you haven't said, ways of participating in public or social spheres you haven't tried.
- Ask yourself: have I ever had a friendly conversation with my friend about our different political beliefs? Have I ever told a joke in class or at work? Have I ever been the first person to get up and dance at a party?
- Ask: have I ever memorized a song to sing to myself? Have I ever written a letter on paper to my mother? Have I ever spent a day riding my bike instead of driving my car?
- Ask: Have I ridden a horse? Have I made my own cards? Have I traveled by train?
- You'll know the right thing to do when you get a little thrill of fear.
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