Laykozavisimosti, or why we show our lives in social networks

Studies show that more than 80% of us (18 years and older) are registered on any social network. And 30% there practically "live." This all-consuming love for the constant updating of the tape provoked an interesting tendency: to show everything off. In the literal sense of the word - everything. It takes two minutes to look through the person's instagram to find out who he meets with, what kind of dishes and table at which he has breakfast, how much his car costs, what repairs to his toilet and how much he can spend on clothes and vacation. Life under a magnifying glass is becoming the norm. We have a need to show personal and share my experience, even if it is not rich, with others: “I ate such a cake for breakfast!”, “And I came to TsUM for a new handbag”, “Thank you for my perfect manicure for my master!” , "This is my pumped up pop!", "And this is my sexy lips! I-oo-oo! ”

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Meanwhile, the cult of narcissism and self-adoration, the desire to let as many people as possible into the personal space are just complexes, the possibility of asserting oneself and raising one's self-esteem at the expense of other people's likes? Why such a window dressing? Psychologists say: this style of behavior in the network is a kind of psychological problem, the roots of which are drawn from childhood. Users who put every step on the public display, crave for the love and attention they have received from their parents. And this ailment is called “laiko dependence”. We all want to get approval and praise in our address. This is normal. Until the desire to please others does not turn into a fixed idea. When you have a need to daily refresh the page on the social network and frantically monitor the reaction of your subscribers to a particular post or photo, this becomes a problem. According to psychologists, if you check social networks every 15–20 minutes and are sincerely worried about the number of approving signs from virtual friends, this is a reason to be wary. You can shift the line between the real and virtual world.The main thing is to make a beautiful photo from the instagram party, and not the party itself. It is more important to take a picture of a dessert than to eat it. You lose the ability to enjoy real life, if you can not tell about it in a social network. Sorry, but this is a “clinic”. The virtual world is really tempting. Here you can be more beautiful, bolder, more relaxed. Flirt, send flowers and kisses to several girls at once and do not bear any responsibility for it. Be macho. And vice versa. To avoid the addiction and maintain a healthy mind, psychologists advise not to sit on social networks for more than 30 minutes a day and at least once a week to completely abandon the Internet. If the situation has already reached its apogee and you can no longer update the tape, you need to act radically. "Breaking" will last three days. Then it will be easier.

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My opinion, "lack of dependence" and openness is not only a psychological ailment, but also a way to make money. Once the account becomes more or less popular, it immediately begins to appear expert opinions in the field of fashion, beauty, family relations.Trainings are organized to attract success and decent money is taken for it - from 2,500 to 7,000 rubles per ticket. The blogger starts touring the cities. In general, it makes money out of thin air. And what is most surprising, at such events often a full house. The girls willingly pay money to listen, for example, what kind of cosmetics Victoria Bonya uses, how Elena Flying achieved success, and how to find a lonely woman the man of her dreams. Anfisa Chekhov, for example, in his master classes reveals the secrets of building harmonious relationships. Well, what about the education of a psychologist and many years of practice? It is worth a little somewhere to shine, and the young star is ready to share anything for money with everyone. And the more promoted the name, the more paid advertising will be in the profile: all sorts of vitamins, cosmetics, teeth whitening products, clothing of different brands and so on. And we are all on this lead. We believe and buy. The price for advertising in social networks starts from 100 thousand rubles for the post and above. And when a star advertises a product, it's not a fact that it tested it on its own. From here that "dependence".The more likes, the more chances to attract an advertiser. Pure mercantile interest ...

In general, we will not confuse the real world with the virtual one in order to preserve our health and an adequate perception of ourselves and those around us. Everything should be in moderation.

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